learning how a narcissist in a relationship will control you opens doors for self-discovery and healing in a self-love lifestyle

How A Narcissist Controls You in a Relationship

A narcissist is in control of you because YOU are not in control of you.  They control you through your weaknesses within your emotions; they know everyone.  Fear is what drives the narcissist then they will project the fear on you.  Their moves are rooted in fear, using shame, guilt, worry, and anger to control you.   

They use hierarchy and titles as leverage (husband, wife, mother, father, sister, brother, teacher, preacher, etc.) to guilt you into staying in an abusive relationship.  They saddle you with the shame of leaving them because of the title they carry and who they think they are.

A narcissist will;

Listen to more about the Narcissist’s Playbook on our From Self-Discovery to Self-Love Podcast. 

Learning To Control Your Emotions

Controlling your emotions is the glue to keeping it all together.  The narcissist hides in your emotions; they distract you with your own pain and past unresolved issues.   They know how to trigger you, your emotions fuels their ego.   

Self-Discovery to Self-Love Fundamentals teaches; Assess, Analyze & Action!

How To Set Boundaries with a Narcissist

Setting boundaries and enforcing them are where you start to regain power and Self-Love.   This is where you begin protecting your peace and applying strategic energy.  Strategic Energy Steps;

Boundaries do not allow people to manipulate you or leave you with their negative energy; they hold people accountable and only engage in truthful conversations.  Boundaries are not making exceptions for “hierarchy and titles.” 

Defending your boundaries is equal to protecting your peace.  

Forcing Relationships  with a Narcissist

Narcissists force you to be in relationships THEY want you to be in, including with them.  They can force you through the shame and guilt associated with not having them in your life , which is all for their benefit and control.   

Are you forcing any relationships? Do you have the strength to remove these people and be at peace with your decisions?  They control you because YOU are trying to force a relationship that is not meant to be held onto.   They are there to help you learn more about your Self-Discovery and your Self-Love.   

What Repels A Narcissist?

Here is a list of proven and effective strategies to repel the narcissist;

This is not something you do 10 minutes or 2 hours a day; Self-Love and Peace must become your lifestyle.   

How To Heal From A Narcissistic Relationship

To heal is understanding that those relationships were not for you and not carrying any shame or guilt for not having that person in your life.  You are not alone.  Narcissists are all over; you can’t go “no contact” with them all; you must learn how to stand firm against their abuse. 

Doing the deep work to understand why you were with a narcissist, to begin with, with no regretful energy.  Having empathy understanding, they do not have self-love, and their problems are all self-inflicted, so they hurt others.  When you break it down, a narcissist’s tactics are child’s play. 

It’s connecting with creatively compatible people.  Reconnecting and healing in nature, getting inspired, it’s every one of our W.O.W Words.  It’s choosing to start becoming SELF-LOVED.  

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